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Originally Posted by jthig32
Correct. It's not like people don't disagree around here, and disagree vehemently.
Ribosoma and I got into a hard core disagreement when he first got here. Dan and I routinely get short with each other.
But we don't all act like complete assholes every single time we disagree with someone, so we still can hold civil conversations.
If someone around here is universally disliked, there's a reason for it, and it's not because we're all banding together or experiencing group think.
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It's crazy that you mentioned this because I was just cueing up a post about the very same thing. I got a bit distracted with some home renovating work, sit back down, reloaded the page to post, and here your post was. Weird little bit of synchronicity.
When I first got here, I was way, way, WAY too condescending and I took things far too seriously. I look back at those first posts from time to time just to humble myself a bit and I always cringe when I do.
CadBane reminds me of a pony I met while visiting a therapeutic horse-riding center in Alvarado. This pony kept nipping at the older horses' asses until they would inevitably kick it in the face. The tragedy was that this was a beautiful animal that was stuck in a feedback loop. When I saw it, it had already lost one eye and yet it was still pulling the same shtick that cost it that eye.
CadBane is our beautiful, blind horse. He just keeps repeating the same behavior, gets kicked in the face, plays nice for a little while, and then starts needling asses again. The fact that he set up bogus accounts after his last ban saddened me. He just keeps projecting his victimhood onto everyone else. The thing I have learned about people who see themselves as victims, besides the fact that they are disempowering themselves and blaming others for it, is that they often become tyrannical in their dealings with others. There is some serious pathology at work in CadBane that I really have some sympathy for, but not to the extent that I am okay with him abusing people here every time someone disagrees with him.