Marriage: We all do it sometime - Dallas-Mavs.com Forums

sixeightmkw · 03-16-2006, 12:30 PM

Welp guys and gals, I am taking the plunge this Saturday at 4 in downtown Dallas. We are getting married at the Avanti restaurant, the one underneath the big pointy building. Any tips? let me know. Thanks guys.

orangedays · 03-16-2006, 12:35 PM

Run.

But seriously, congratulations. I wish you guys all the best.

kg_veteran · 03-16-2006, 12:49 PM

Tips?

1) Listen to your wife when she's talking.
2) If your wife is complaining about something, don't automatically assume she wants you to fix it.
3) Admit when you are wrong.
4) Don't rub it in her face when you are right.
5) You can't argue with feelings. If you hurt your wife's feelings, it doesn't matter if you're right or not. Apologize.

There's plenty more I could offer, but those are some good basic rules to live by.

sixeightmkw · 03-16-2006, 12:54 PM

thanks

jthig32 · 03-16-2006, 01:17 PM

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2) If your wife is complaining about something, don't automatically assume she wants you to fix it.

Boy howdy is that one important. This would have saved me some headaches early on...

sixeightmkw · 03-16-2006, 01:18 PM

good to know, my soon to be wife sure complains alot.

capitalcity · 03-16-2006, 01:37 PM

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Originally Posted by sixeightmkw

good to know, my soon to be wife sure complains alot.

Eventhough your money, sweat, and tears have gone into the wedding - it's her day - make damn sure everybody treats her like a princess.

Welcome to the club.

dalmations202 · 03-16-2006, 01:40 PM

KG is dead on.

Also,
1) learn to keep romance in your marriage even after kids.
2) learn to communicate and talk to her (most men tend to stop talking about year two)
3) always listen before you decide what to do, and if you don't take her advice, then let her know why
4) Right or Wrong doesn't always matter - many times it is better to just agree to disagree on a subject.
5) Learn to define roles and expectations, so their isn't as much surprise and let-down
6) Make a budget -- this will end many many arguments before they start
7) Make sure she has Fun -- many women forget how to do this.
8) Make time for her, and make sure she knows that she is more important than work, kids, etc., everything except God. This one is huge.

orangedays · 03-16-2006, 01:43 PM

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Originally Posted by sixeightmkw

good to know, my soon to be wife sure complains alot.

Hope she doesn't read this board.

sixeightmkw · 03-16-2006, 02:18 PM

haha, no I doubt it.

Murphy3 · 03-16-2006, 02:31 PM

I've heard that writing in the paper bag clause into the marriage contract can do wonders once her looks start to go down the drain.

sixeightmkw · 03-16-2006, 02:35 PM

already in there. haha.

u2sarajevo · 03-16-2006, 11:21 PM

The most important thing and the most rewarding thing you can do in your marriage besides having a mutual relationship with God is having lots and lots and lots of kids.

When you think you are done having children, have one more. You can never have too many.

dude1394 · 03-16-2006, 11:39 PM

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Originally Posted by kg_veteran

Tips?

1) Listen to your wife when she's talking.
2) If your wife is complaining about something, don't automatically assume she wants you to fix it.
3) Admit when you are wrong.
4) Don't rub it in her face when you are right.
5) You can't argue with feelings. If you hurt your wife's feelings, it doesn't matter if you're right or not. Apologize.

There's plenty more I could offer, but those are some good basic rules to live by.

What he said. Good stuff kg..

Evilmav2 · 03-17-2006, 05:20 AM

I say Fah, Bah, and Bad Tidings upon marriage; both as an institution, and as the chafing, scraping, scabrously diseased leg-iron that the damnable thing is...

sike · 03-17-2006, 11:36 AM

be ready to give your time.

time is one of the most important keys to a healthy marriage relationships...so give it freely and often...

OzMavs · 03-18-2006, 06:50 AM

Man, It can be the most rewarding decision of your life to make the big decision. Be ready for it son! Choose wisely! Just be aware that you need 2 TV's and a lot of patience!

Smiles · 03-20-2006, 05:30 PM

OzMavs: Good call, but 8 TVs make it even better!

It can be good, if:
You both answer the phone when the other is calling
You both are easy-going and fun
You both agree on spending $
You both have a lot of fun together
You both are happy to make each other the #1 prioroty

If you both try to give 100% without keeping score, then you both feel so lucky and happy in your day-by-day life. Don't forget to make time for the fun things that brought you together in the first place, and give each other lots of space sometimes. Clearly tell her when you need time and space to yourself, and let her know when you'll be back. Also, support her desire to have the house to herself sometimes.

I hope she likes sports because that can go a looooong way!

Drbio · 03-20-2006, 09:49 PM

Wow...How did I miss this gem of a thread? Except for Evil...

....this has been outstanding.

Make her the first thing you think of when you wake up (and every waking minute) and the last thing you think about as you fall asleep. Listen. Hold her for no reason. Look into her eyes as she speaks. Even when you are right, make her feel the same way. Compliment her. Say thanks. Smile. Love. Take her to church. Listen. Tell her you love her. Listen. Let her drive if she wants. Listen. Listen some more. And make sure to love her unconditionally.

Five-ofan · 03-20-2006, 10:49 PM

Well im not married and wont be for at least a few more years so as for that i cant give you any advice so i will just leave you with my sincere congratulations.

orangedays · 03-21-2006, 01:03 AM

How'd the wedding go?

EDIT: I'm going to venture a guess and say he's not checking dm.com on his honeymoon.

sike · 03-21-2006, 12:05 PM

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Originally Posted by orangedays

How'd the wedding go?

EDIT: I'm going to venture a guess and say he's not checking dm.com on his honeymoon.

a sign that his priorities are already out of whack!

Nemesis · 03-21-2006, 02:44 PM

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Originally Posted by kg_veteran

Tips?

1) Listen to your wife when she's talking.
2) If your wife is complaining about something, don't automatically assume she wants you to fix it.
3) Admit when you are wrong.
4) Don't rub it in her face when you are right.
5) You can't argue with feelings. If you hurt your wife's feelings, it doesn't matter if you're right or not. Apologize.

There's plenty more I could offer, but those are some good basic rules to live by.

Absolute Genius..

Big Boy Laroux · 03-21-2006, 03:39 PM

Didn't we have a thread a few weeks ago containing great marriage advice? Something about a contract and specifics on sleeping attire?

Smiles · 03-22-2006, 03:00 PM

BBL, I remember that thread! I tried to sneak that contract it under my husband's pen, but he'd already seen it online and didn't fall for my sneaky wiles.

Drbio · 03-22-2006, 03:18 PM

That contract was ....I'm not sure what it was. Dumbfounding maybe?

Caliente · 03-23-2006, 01:17 PM

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Originally Posted by Drbio

Wow...How did I miss this gem of a thread? Except for Evil...

....this has been outstanding.

Make her the first thing you think of when you wake up (and every waking minute) and the last thing you think about as you fall asleep. Listen. Hold her for no reason. Look into her eyes as she speaks. Even when you are right, make her feel the same way. Compliment her. Say thanks. Smile. Love. Take her to church. Listen. Tell her you love her. Listen. Let her drive if she wants. Listen. Listen some more. And make sure to love her unconditionally.

After reading this all I can say is..............

Clone Doc Now!!!!................

Big Boy Laroux · 03-23-2006, 01:27 PM

do we really need more ugly, sensitive guys in the world?

sixeightmkw · 03-27-2006, 10:15 AM

Well, I am back from the wedding and the honeymoon. The wedding was outside at Fountain Place at Avanti in downtown Dallas/ you could see the AAC from our hotel room. It was an outside wedding, kinda, and it was raining pretty damn hard but let up for the wedding. We went to Orlando for a week and got back Friday. Thanks for the advice. some pretty good stuff in there.